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What would you do when things get out of control?



Come to think of it, we have so little control over our lives. We can’t control who likes us and who doesn’t, we can’t control who will hire us and who won’t, we can’t control who we get to love and who loves us back…we don’t even have the slightest control over life and death. What I have come to learn is that we have so little control about how our lives and situations turn out…probably a whole 95%. But what we really have control over is how we choose to respond to situations that occur in our spaces. To be honest, I love control, I bet most if not all us do. Control means order and yes, I love independence, to shape the different aspects within my life and be the sculptor, crafting myself to the person I want to be. But with all the effort there is always something that turns out to be contrary of what you expected or rather wished for. with all that was said, it trickles down to one question, ‘how do you react when you find yourself in situations where things are so out of your control?

There is a list of situations that I have found myself in that I don’t even have the smallest control over, I bet most of us have-I mean, look at Covid! In a situation where things get out of control, I have learned to surrender, to let things happen. Que sera, sera you know. It’s crazy how since I adopted this mantra, nothing really seems to get to me that much. It goes like this ‘vitu za dunia haziwezi nipea stress buana’ (Things of this world wont stress me out). If there is anything that I really don’t have any control over, I let it be- I surrender. I surrender it all to the universe, it knows how to take care of things, it always does… so, let the universe take care of it. Reacting to some things brings about a lot of undoing than it’s helping the situations. It leaves such a residue in your energy field that it takes a lot of time to get over with. The same goes with me learning how to maintain my cool in situations that would call for me to react. Keeping my cool at all situations you know, it breeds peace within you. Being reactive only breeds chaos.

The other thing is accepting reality. In most times we find ourselves in situations where we really didn’t see them happening to us and so, we try to distort the real picture of things. We find ourselves so hauled up in trying to search escape routes from what is really happening and there is where we end up making more damage. I know they say, keep a positive mind, but I am also sure you have heard about toxic positivity, right? Accepting situations and happenings in our lives is the first step into helping change stuff for the better, it is the first step of healing, of taking back control of things. 

I have learnt to look at things from a real angle, find out the reality of things and work from that point. With so, I’d say unto you… in any situation accept reality and work through that…it helps you remain true to yourself while you expound on your ball of perspective. It gives you the chance to choose where you place your power. It is the first sure way of helping you find a way out. I believe it is better to know how to respond at things that happen in our lives rather being reactive about it…I bet that is where true peace lies.

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